There are moments that make you wonder whether things will work out, and then moments that tell you in no uncertain terms it definitely will not. These 15 people experienced the latter and never looked back.
#15. Lessons about people.
“When I realized our friendship was at her convenience and if she didn’t need emotional support she would prefer I didn’t exist. I’m willing to bet good money that she hasn’t thought about me once since we stopped talking, despite her constant claims of how “important” I was. I’ve learned some seriously important lessons about people from it all, though, so I guess it isn’t all bad.”
#14. Nothing excited me.
“I had a realisation that even though there was nothing wrong
with the relationship, there wasn’t all that much right with it
either. There was nothing that excited me. It was just a sort of low-level dissatisfaction with each other that was only getting worse, but never quickly enough to be able to point to an individual moment where we could justify sitting down and having The Talk. We just sort of assumed we were happy because we were happy once, and things hadn’t really changed, so… stability, I guess? Yay?
Eventually it just go to the stage where we were picking each other apart grain by grain, so I sat him down and explained that we were better off apart. He didn’t agree. It was a rough conversation, but it worked out for the best; shortly afterwards he found someone that he was genuinely excited to be with, and they’re still doing great.
The realisation that just because he was a good person, it didn’t mean he was a good person for me was a big turning point.”
“When I told him about something exciting that happened in my life (getting into grad school), and instead of being excited for me, he was angry because he felt he deserved it more than I did. Despite never applying for any such program himself, getting shitty grades because all he did during college was play video games, and having no career ambitions to speak of.
I dealt with a lot of shit from him over the span of 2.5 years, but somehow his resentment of my happiness in that moment was the straw that broke the proverbial camel’s back. Broke it off with him not long after.”
#12. Closed chat.
“Open facebook chat with friend.
Begin typing “Hi!”
See that I already wrote it five times in the last nine months, without any kind of reply.
Close facebook chat with ex-friend.”
“Rule of three, and rule of reciprocation.
Rule of three: If you invite someone to do something together three times, and they decline three times without offering an alternative, then they don’t want to be with you.
Reciprocation: If you are always the one initiating contact or coming up with ideas for getting together, and the other side never reciprocates, then they don’t want to be with you.
I’ve cut a lot of people out of my life after I adopted these rules. I don’t have as many “friends” but I also spend a lot less time trying to figure out how to get someone to spend time with me.”
#10. The dread.
“When I saw their name pop up on my phone, and my immediate reaction was dread rather than excitement.
It’s one thing to occasionally feel that a friend is being needy, it’s another when literally every communication leads to you wondering, “oh, god, what is it this time?”
#9. An excuse to be mean.
“I’m a lil chunky and have a friend that is also a lil chunky. I don’t really care, but she is obviously a little bit bigger than me. Weird thing is, she insists constantly she is 30-50 pounds lighter than me, says she’s half my pants size, etc. It’s weird but I chalk it up to insecurity.
She would always make these weird, cloaked insults about my weight. Once I was talking about how I was shopping at forever 21 in the plus size section. A few minutes later, I complimented her skirt and she said “perks of being able to shop outside of the plus size section!”
It wasn’t veiled enough for me anymore and I decided not be friends with someone that used their insecurity as an excuse to be mean to me anymore.”
#8. Lose my number.
“I had a friend who was supposed to be the best man at my wedding, but texted me the day of the rehearsal that he wasn’t going to make it.
But it didn’t end there. Some years later he put out a FB invitation to a BBQ at a park, this turned out to be his own wedding, which was a surprise. The following day he texted me “Guess we’re even on missing each other’s weddings now.”
I told him to lose my phone number at that point.”
#7. My mental health.
“I’ve hit this point with a friend recently. He’s become extremely negative in the past year or so.
Anything anyone says or does is wrong. I bought a tyre pressure gauge and tread depth gauge for my new car and he went off on a rant about how I’m spending my money on ‘pointless things’
I told him that I learnt to drive in a diesel car and I’m finding it hard to adjust to a petrol. He went on a rant about how all diesels are shit and how I need to learn my car better
I mentioned that I was looking for a new job and he went off about how he would have fired me months ago anyway because of my mental health.
He never use to be like this.”
#6. Yeah, basically.
“Me: Sorry, I got busy working on this nice project and I was also talking with my cousin
Ex: that’s dumb
Me: um, which part?
Me: because they take my attention away from you?
Ex: yeah basically
I broke up with her 2 days later.”
#5. That realization.
“When I realized I didn’t like myself when I’m with them.”
#4. A year ago.
“When I went to text him happy birthday and saw that the last communication between us was me texting him happy birthday a year ago.
EDIT: went, not want.”
#3. A bag of problems.
“When I told him that I didn’t have the money for a wedding right now and we needed to push it back a year and he said, “well if we don’t have it now, we’ll never have it”. I suggested we just go to the justice of the peace and he said, “No, I want a real wedding” (He and his family didn’t have the money to even help…so he expected me to pay for my own wedding by myself). He had some friends over a few days later and I was having a call with my bridesmaids and I overheard him say, “oh, I stay out of all that stuff…the wedding is for her, ya know.” It was the first time that I had ever heard him outright lie to someone about something so trivial and dumb. I broke off the engagement the next day after i told him we need to postpone because I’m not trying to go into debt for a day and he still said, No. He finally confessed that he wanted to get married because he wanted something in his life that was secure. I was like….and what was I going to get? A bag of problems is what. I am so thankful for my wandering ears overhearing that bs.”
#2. I left.
“It’s funny to say it but I saw a thing on Facebook that said “if I close my eyes and imagine the men I want my boys to be is it their dad.” It’s funny because it was basically the one simple thing that woke me up. I couldn’t let my two boys watch how he treated me and think that’s how you treat someone you love. So when my older son was 3 and my younger son was 4 months old I left!”
#1. I couldn’t wait.
“When I couldn’t wait for them to leave to go home after staying at mine for the weekend.”