These days, I’m quite happily married, but it wasn’t that many years ago that I was living the single life. While I’m definitely happier today than I was then, there are definitely some parts of the single life that were pretty great.
There are a lot of perks, as these 15 people are quick to point out.
#1. My entire social battery.
I can do what I want whenever I want!
Well, actually I still gotta help my family and go to work and that pretty much drains my entire social battery.
#2. Not getting dragged into lame events.
Not getting dragged into lame events with her family that essentially ruin my weekend.
“Oh no, I totally want to drive three hours and hangout with your family this weekend. I had these crazy plans to relax, maybe go for a bike ride, have some beers by pool, go to a movie with our friends, etc. But you’re right, lets drive three hours away to listen to your family argue about politics, eat bland food, and sleep on a futon. Sounds great.”
#3. What I love about being single.
All of my shit is exactly where I left it when I get home.
My bed is still made, my dishes are still done, my food is still there, my clothes are still clean, and nothing is missing from my cash stash.
If I want to stay up late and watch movies or listen to music, I can.
If I want to go to bed early, and use the whole damn bed, I can.
If I want to go out and have a few drinks with my friends, I can.
I never have to laugh at unfunny memes’ found on FaceBook, or explain why I’m laughing so hard at anything.
I never have to justify my joy.
I’m my own person. Full, complete, and content.
And no one can drain that from me.
This is what I love about being single.
#4. So much space!
Being able to sleep diagonally across my bed, so much space !
#5. The same goes for me.
No one has to deal with my shit, and the same goes for me. Dunno how I’d handle that.
#6. Free of the constant anxiety.
I’m free of the constant anxiety of if I’m being a good boyfriend.
#7. No obligations.
the fact that I have no obligations to anyone on a daily basis (outside of my family and shit). all I gotta do is worry about myself. also I get to use all my money for me
Edit: Thanks for the silvers and all the replies, even the ones who disagree, I enjoy hearing your perspectives.
#8. When you put something somewhere.
No longer single but the fact that when you put something somewhere IT FUCKING STAYS THERE!!!
Edit : thank you for gold and silver!
#9. The thing I miss most.
married father here chiming in.
The thing I miss most about being single is the ability to act purely in your own self-interest without having any sense of guilt or responsibility to another person. And I’m not even talking about something with high stakes — I’m talking about something as simple as wanting to eat an entire bag of skittles without sharing with another person.
Don’t get me wrong, I love sacrificing for my family and sharing any and every thing I have with my wife and kid, but when you’re single, you have the ability and right to make every tiny decision based on your own self-interest or selfishness, and that’s something I sometimes miss on a very simple rudimentary level.
#10. Not worrying about their success.
I enjoy not worrying about their success. Life can be difficult, so supporting an SO and putting personal struggles on the back burner to do so can be exhausting.
Overall, a healthy relationship is still my favorite… but single is much better than an unhealthy one.
Obligatory Edit: Holy karma! Thank you everyone! I’m so happy that so many of you found some value in this post. I’m in the middle of a divorce and had been habitually putting myself second to my wife, so I’ve really been trying to convince myself this is true. All these fake internet points reassure me in my thinking and make me feel pretty great, so I really appreciate you all. Please stay awesome! ????????????????????
#11. Delightfully selfish.
I can do whatever I want, whenever I want. I can spend money on myself with zero regard for what anyone else thinks. I don’t have to factor anyone else into my plans or life decisions.
It can be lonely sometimes, but it’s also delightfully selfish.
#12. I don’t have to choose.
i don’t have to chose between hanging with my friends or my SO.
#13. Best of all…
Not having to share a bed.
Not having to share your food.
Your space. Your free time. Your time out with friends.
But best of all …
Not having to have unnecessarily long discussions on where to eat.
#14. Stuff can just happen.
That stuff can just happen. If I want to change my entire weekend plans, bam – done. If I stumble upon a thing that happens and want to participate, boom – done. If I don’t want to talk to anyone, ka-blam – done.
#15. Exactly where it should be.
Everything in my car and apartment is exactly where it should be.
Try not to be jealous, coupled people. We have perks, too.
Just not the same ones.