We all want happy lives, right? I mean, obviously there are going to be ups and downs and highs and lows, but what about the long stretches of even? Humdrum? Every day? Those are the times when being happy matters the most, I say.
So, let’s check out 10 rules (according to psychologist Mikhail Efimovich Litvak) to help you get – and stay – there!
#10. The right path vs. the shortest one.
Or the easiest one. The road to happiness and success may not be straight – it’s important to remember this when it feels like your own path is doubling up on itself. You can still be headed in the right direction, given some luck, patience, and perseverance.
#9. A well-organized life.
According to Viktor Frankl, happiness, joy, and success are simple side effects of a well-organized life. You have to perform daily acts that make you experience and reach happiness, joy, and success during your routines.
#8. Goals sharpen your vision.
Giving yourself something to work for, save for, etc can be like setting the focus on your camera. With something to keep an eye on, you’re more likely to keep going, and to get what you’re after.
#7. Respect other people.
Every person you come across is a human being with their own backgrounds and views. They’re all fighting a battle. Never act like you’re better than them or that your problems are bigger.
#6. Stop trying to change people’s opinions.
Live your life for yourself – if you waste time trying to prove other people wrong, their opinions become more important than your own.
#5. Do as you say.
We are defined by our actions, not by our words. If you say you’re going to do something or want to do something, at least start down the path. It will make you happy – and other people will respect you for it.
#4. Learn to love being alone.
Mature people can use time alone to self-reflect, and understand that another person won’t be able to make them happy – only you can do that, for yourself.
#3. The best revenge is living well.
There’s no better way to shed your grudges and free yourself from the negative feelings than by finding success doing something you love. Simple, right?
#2. Want, can, and must.
Your life will be happy and in balance when what you want, can, and must do are the same. Bottom line? The only thing you must do is work on yourself. The rest will follow.
#1. You are your own worst enemy.
You have to face the barriers you’ve set for yourself that stop you from growing and changing. Once you do, you’ll be able to move forward with a version of yourself that you’re able and willing to face in the mirror every day.